Good times, bad times

Thinking back over the last year and a half of being a parent and talking to other mothers, there are definite times when babies are easier: 15 months is an obvious one for me at the moment (one waking last night!  hurrah!).  10 months is often a good window to change things, although I don’t remember it being great for us.  20 months to 2 years (depending on the child) is supposed to be much easier as well.  These are probably good times to alter things (night weaning, moving to own bed etc.).

Conversely, there are bad times you have to grit your teeth and get through however you can.  There seem to be far more of these, or maybe I am remembering the bad times more than the good.  Moxie has a great summary of some of these spurt times (I found growth spurts the most difficult times to get through as sleep was replaced with the need to feed constantly).  My own memory of months 1-15 goes like this:

Day 3: just before milk comes in, feeding ALL THE TIME. No sleep.  Still shell-shocked.

Week 3: first big growth spurt, constant feeding for a week.  Most people tell you spurts last for a few days, well not for us.

Week 6: another one.  Grrrrrrr.

Week 12: getting bored of this now…

Month 4: even more disruption as a big sleep regression kicks in

Month 6: I thought starting solids was supposed to help with sleep!  Not in this house, baby is waking more because he’s unsettled.  Going back to work probably doesn’t help.  This is the point where we give up on the cot completely and co-sleep to preserve what little sanity I have left.

Months 7/8/9: at least one growth spurt, feels like lots.  Sleep is disrupted for a looooong time.  Also teeth popping through constantly.  Not good.  Sanity lost a long time ago.

Month 12/13: another ****** growth spurt.  Baby is behaving like a newborn again.  Tempers fray.  Molars breaking through.

Month 14: things start settling down and a few 3 hour blocks of sleep keep us away from the loony bin.  Naps settle down.  Bedtimes start to be an issue.

Month 15: action taken on sleep (getting baby alseep before midnight, into cot and not feeding at night).  Rather shocked when it actually works. Good thing too, because

Month 18: things are supposed to go belly-up again.  Time to bank some sleep now…


8 Responses to Good times, bad times

  1. amberjee says:

    so where do the good times fit in amongst all of that growth spurting and sleep regressioning?? 😉

  2. We must be Luck, our son is 3 months old, and while he is cranky during growth spurts he has been sleeping 6-8 hours a night uninterrupted for the last month.

    I know however that this will not last and i will return to my former zombie state.

  3. farhana says:

    I thought I was going insane with sleep deprivation. Tried everything, even tried to put her into a routine. All that about naps during the day helps for a better sleep, tried it!!! Giving solids to help baby how many times have I heard that…even the health visitor told me to do it!!!

    At least I know from this blog that it’s ‘normal’…well if at least one other person is going through the same, it is!!!

  4. amberjee says:

    Farhana, I know what you mean, there seem to be no quick solutions. I think it’s a matter of time and maturity and a lot of parental patience.

  5. Alisha says:

    I’m so glad I stumbled onto your blog! Between you and Moxie, I might – MIGHT – stay sane through my son’s blasted 13.5 month regression/growth spurt/ear infection/creeping-walking/teething. (C’mon, Universe. Cut a mother some slack!) The boy is awake for hooooooours every single night – waking and wailing, refusing to sleep anywhere except my chest. Hearing that I’m not alone is beyond comforting.

  6. Lakshmi Srinivasan says:

    Love the name of your site – I was googling 8 month growth spurt since I am ready to jump out the window with my second one (although wisdom and experience points to the fact that I might survive this! 🙂 and I came across your site. Always good to know there are other moms sharing in your joys and challenges – keeps it real.

  7. Mommymaddie says:

    Thanks for this!! I’m reading this after an hour of trying to put baby Ethan back to sleep…been asking myself “what’s wrong?” after numerous nights of night feedings!

  8. Ana says:

    The hour that he gives me after initially following asleep each night, I spend surfing the net searching for ways to stretch it into 3, 4, 5 hours. It’s reassuring to know that my 6 month old isn’t the only one that thinks that “sleep is for the weak”. And napping? hahahaha! It’s healthy to laugh about this, right?

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