This is partially inspired by the question Amberjee answered below with my own rambling thoughts on the thorny question of parenting styles. I think it was Amberjee (if I were more organised I’d search her posts and find out) who said something quite early on which made me think a lot: that she wasn’t the parent she’d expected to be. There may be perfect parents who did all the reading, decided on a Parenting Style that suited their expectations and lifestyles and slotted Perfect Junior into their regime or routine when he or she arrived. I’m sure there are, whether they are Attachment Parents or Contented Little Baby owners or Baby Whisperer devotees. And good luck to them. I am not. I do not know anyone else who is. Life in SIFTW goes somewhat differently.
- Look at the problem (a new baby, a non-sleeping baby, a baby who will not be put down, colic, slow weight gain, fast weight gain, whatever)
- Do the research: read the books, look at the websites, ask health professionals
- Come up with a Plan. It’s an excellent plan, it covers all the bases and it makes you feel all warm and organised and a Perfect Parent when you look at it
- Apply the Plan to the Baby